My Life, My Cause

My name is Taneeka, I was born in 1994 to a woman who never loved me and a man that never wanted me, adopted by grandparents that have shown me so much love that they will always be my parents and I will always be their youngest child. DNA is nothing, Love is everything. I am me, you can love me or hate me, either way I am still me and I am happy to live my life my way.

I am asking you as a reader to read it all before you judge my past years. I will admit now that I was shellfish, rude, arrogant and stupid for a long time, but read it before you judge.

2010

In 2010 my parents had been split for 2 years and I was missing the attention I was use to, being spoilt and always had attention showered on me this was a HUGE change and my spoilt little self wasn't dealing, school, work and the boyfriend at the time was never enough to fill my time I was always left with no personal time that I could just grab a cold drink and play playstation until all hours. I soon found a book called "the promise of wolves" reading this book I made time for the book and it opened my eyes to the word and realities of different books, my passion was lit. The attention I was missing I soon found in books. I worked harder and longer on weekends, started spending less time getting home from school and the boyfriend and I ended it because his father didn't approve of my life plans. (apparently owning a bookstore makes you a low life) I didn't care, I had my parents, friends and books. I soon became selfish with books, my friends could never get my attention no matter what was happening in the world I didn't care for their issues or pains or about them pretty much.  I was selfish, rude and arrogant (many more words).

2011

The start of 2011 was no different to the end of 2010 I was still the same person it was just a different year. I quit school because it took up to much of my time and signed up to do a diploma of Business that I am still working on (I'll explain later) and one day I met this guy, we became inseparable, we loved spending time together and I turned against my family because they didn't approve of him. I was stupid and moved in with him because I was in love, he was my everything thing. He wanted to move to a town 6 hours away and I said yes because growing up is a mighty big adventure I thought I was ready to take with him.  I spent the last months of 2011 in love and so happy I was ready to make this my permanent life.

2012

I lost who I was in 2012, every part of my life was about him. If he didn't like my clothes I would change them, he didn't like a friend I would lose them at the time I didn't see what was happening. He was turning into the guy everyone had warned me about, he started the mental and verbal abuse that would sometimes turn violent the he started to cheat and party while I was not allowed to do anything, I had 2 female friends at this time that would stay with me as there men were the same just not violent, I tried to leave twice but he always promised he would changed because he loved me.  I was 10 long and distant hours away from my family at this point, my family don't know any of this yet because I haven't been brave enough to tell them. He started drinking more than normal, partying harder and then started to experiment with the drugs. This was the third time I was trying to leave but this time I rang my family and told them I was leaving him and I had all the help I needed, Christmas Eve I was with my family once again. Waking up surrounded by family was the best Christmas EVER! I was safe, free and loved.

2013

I celebrated my life, my freedom and my future with my family on new year's day, I pledged myself to my new year's resolution to stay away from guys like him, I swore I would make a list of resolutions and I did they were:

Volunteer in a community group (State Emergency Services)
Support my aunts involvement with charity (CysticFibrosis, I Work Event Management)
Own over 500 books (640 At this moment in time)
Sign up to Tafe ( I have completed a cert 4 in admin finance)
Get my own house (it looks more like cottage)
Get a full time job (I work as a manufacture)
Buy a Car (I named my 2002 Toyota, Buzz)
I forgot the rest.

Now it is September when I am writing this I am still single and working through the night mares of my past relationship with him, I work with the SES (state emergency services) and work a full time job, also I am an even manager for Benz Bandit Rally Car 560.  The defence force reserves has my name on it so I plan to start training soon so there is still time for all my other commitments. Every day I wake up a see how lucky I was to have my family support and how we all support each other. I have the best life I have made for myself and I love my family and friends. I made the change I needed and with the help of my family I saved myself.

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